Motivation is available everywhere, whether it’s on YouTube or here on BookiesTalk but in the end, you will have to say to yourself, I will and I can do whatever I wish and this is what Gary John Bishop talks about in his UNF*K YOURSELF book.
He will teach you the power of self-talk and if you take one or two lessons from him, you will able achieve your dreams.
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Unfu*k Yourself Summary
I have read tons of self-help books and every single self-help book talks about:
- How to Understand Your Habits.
- Reward System.
- Don’t think much about other people, focus on yourself and your dreams.
- You’re responsible for your doings, don’t blame others
- Only you can change yourself.
- Health should be your highest priority.
- How to Talk to Yourself.
- Focus on One Thing at a time, don’t trap yourself in multitasking.
- If you want to start something, start now, the time is NOW.
- Start Exercising, reading books, writing journals every day, and doing meditation.
- Be in the present movement, and don’t think much about the Past or Future.
- Why Talking to Yourself is important
These are the key points that I found in the self-help books, of course, each book will have its own ways to put everything together.
That’s the reason why different authors will have different points of view because each author has experienced something that no one has.
So he or she will give different perspectives but in the end, everyone will tell you “how to Understand yourself better”
The Unfu*k Yourself is not different from other self-help books, Gary John Bishop talks about all the same things but in a different way.
So if you have read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson then you can skip this book and find your next read here.
Still, confused, let me tell you some of the lessons from the Unfu*k Yourself book, so you can decide whether you should buy the book or not.
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Make a difference
You have to claim your greatness. I’m not going to do it for you. Neither is your mother or your spouse or your neighbor.
Confidence won’t save you, the future is not suddenly going to improve, your worry isn’t going to suddenly disappear and your new qualifications aren’t going to make you suddenly assertive or credible.
Only you can take a stand for your potential.
Don’t just read this, think about it, and then go on about your life doing the same shit over and over.
- “I’ll do it later” – no, do it now.
- “I’m not smart enough to do that” – cut it out. Stop honoring that shit and act.
- Don’t let your mind control you any longer. Stop letting it hold you back with its excuses and distractions and worries.
- You are not your thoughts. You are your actions. You are what you do.
And your actions are the only thing separating you from where you are and where you want to be.
In short, do it now, don’t wait for tomorrow. If you believe in something then just go for it, don’t make excuses, JUST DO IT…
You’re Going to Die
One day, you’re going to die. You’re going to stop breathing, become still, and cease to exist. You will exit this physical plain. Whether it’s tomorrow or twenty years from now, it’s going to happen.
We’re all mortal. There’s no escaping it. You might find discomfort in these words or resist the notion of your demise but if it’s the truth you’re after, that’s the one truth you just cannot argue with. You are going to die.
Imagine that you’re on your deathbed. You hear the beep… beep… beep of the monitor nearby. Your health is critical, and you’ve only got a few hours to live. You can feel your heartbeat and energy slide.
As you lie there, you start to look back on your life. You never made the change you wanted. You stayed stuck in that same job, that same relationship, that same overweight body until now, the day you die.
You read books, but you never applied them. You planned diets, but you never followed them.
You told yourself what you were going to do, and psyched yourself up a thousand times, but you never did it. You started dozens if not hundreds of life-changing escapades and then wilted.
As you lie there in your hospital bed, loved ones cycling in and out over the course of the day, what do you feel?
Regret? Remorse? Sorrow? What would you give if you could go back?
Dammit, WAKE UP! The regret will course through your body, your mind, and your heart. It’ll be crushing. Unbearable. You’re not sure whether to fear death or to welcome it, just so it can take you out of this misery.
Here’s the thing: future you are not going to regret a lack of achievement or the absence of any one thing in your life. The only thing you will regret is not trying. Not striving. Not pushing through when the going got tough.
You won’t regret not making a million dollars, you’ll regret never starting that business or quitting that lousy job.
You won’t regret not marrying a supermodel, you’ll regret staying in that dead-end relationship when you knew you could do better.
You won’t regret not looking like a bodybuilder, you’ll regret stopping at the drive-thru every night on your way home and living a lie.
And this will happen to you. You will die. You will go through all of that on your own, in the quiet solitude of our own dwindling consciousness.
Unless you take the action that’s needed to change, to build the life you want, the life you can be proud of.
Two Steps to Freedom
If you’re truly ready to change your life, to take hold of that freedom you’ve been missing, there are two things you need to do.
1. What You’re Doing
Simple, right? Look at the things that are causing your problems, the habits that have put you in the situation you are in.
If you don’t get anything done because you’re glued to the couch, binge-watching Netflix for hours at a time, or have become a little too attracted to the delicacies of your local Dunkin Donuts, stop doing it.
No, seriously, STOP. Now.
Don’t start listing all the reasons you can’t. “But the shows are so good, and I’m so tired after work,” or “I need the small pleasures to keep me going”.
If you can’t even stop watching TV long enough to get your life together, you obviously don’t want to change. That’s basic shit. It’s the bare minimum, to be honest.
So what will it be? Netflix or a better-paying career? Donuts or a body you can be proud of? Video games or a loving relationship? If eating out every day makes you feel like crap, why are you still doing it?
You’re not any different or any worse off than anyone else. You’re not a fucking special case who needs different rules than anyone else.
You need to make a choice, right now. You’re never going to change your life until you get rid of those things.
No more excuses.
2. The Actions
Again, pretty straightforward, right? Changing your life isn’t just about NOT doing certain things. You’ve also got to put in the work and build the positive habits that will pull you in the right direction.
If you want a new job, go out and apply for one. Get out there and network. Search the classifieds, talk to friends, and ask for references.
No, I mean really do them. Don’t say you will, and then don’t. Don’t hype yourself up, then push it off until tomorrow.
Stopping your bad habit doesn’t help unless you replace it with something else, something that actually works in your favor and is an example of the new kind of life you really want to live.
It’s about systematically replacing the old with the new, forging a new life for yourself–the kind of life you’ve always wanted.
Again, to understand your behavior, I would highly recommend you read Atomic Habits by James Clear.
Expect Nothing, Accept Everything
When you make a plan, what do you have to gain from being welded to the expectations inherent in it? Nothing.
When you are free from its expectations you are “in a dance” with life where you can simply execute the plan, and deal with what happens.
If it succeeds, you can celebrate. If it fails, you can re-calibrate.
Your life, your success, and your happiness are in your own hands.
The power to change, the power to let go, be adventurous, and embrace your potential all lies within your reach.
Remember, no one can save you, no one can shift you, all of that is your responsibility, and what better time to embrace that change than now?
I know, it’s easy to say all these things but when it comes to real life, it doesn’t fit well.
The thing is when you expect something and if you don’t get what you have expected then you will become sad but what if you say to yourself “I’m ready for both results” whether I fail or succeed?
The same line “If it succeeds, you can celebrate. If it fails, you can re-calibrate.”
Unfu*k Yourself Quotes
“Here’s the coaching—CUT IT OUT! Let go of those expectations NOW!”
“Love the life you have, not the one you expected to have.”
“you must first accept that while there are things that have happened in your life that you had no say in, you are 100 percent responsible for what you do with your life in the aftermath of those events. Always, every time, no excuses.”
“If you took the time to be with what I’m saying, you’d realize that what causes most of your worry is trying to predict the future and then refusing to accept things when they don’t or aren’t going to go your way.”
“We often view ourselves as procrastinators or lazy or unmotivated. When in reality, we’re simply unwilling. We put things off or avoid them completely because we tell ourselves we just don’t want to do it or that we can’t do it.”
“you are 100 percent responsible for what you do with your life”
Unfu*k Yourself Review
We rate this Book 4.0/5.
Gary John Bishop is more like Mark Manson who wrote The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck.
The author will tell you directly in your face that, stop that shit and start working on your dreams otherwise, you will get f*cked.
If you want someone to tell you on your face about your life then make sure you read the book.
In the end, Friend to Friend, don’t read self-help books, if you’re not going to apply.
Also, there is no bad self-help book available, you might find similarities but in the end, the author is trying to say to you “how to Understand yourself better”
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