Gay Hendricks author of The Big Leap gives you a clear idea of why people around the world choose to live in their comfort zone, and why they don’t want to go out and explore other things, although, the focus of the book is Self-Sabotage.
Favorite Quotes from The Big Leap
“How am I getting in my own way?”
“Simply put, if you have some emotion within you that you don’t know how to manage, you seal that emotion away and start trying to manage other people’s versions of it.”
“I can’t expand to my highest potential because I’d be an even bigger burden than I am now.”
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The Big Leap Review
The author has touched upon work, love, relationship, wealth, time management, work management, and even procrastination which is the main reason why the book doesn’t stand out.
The book has everything and because of that, the author didn’t get much time to focus on Self-Sabotage.
Somewhere the book feels unfinished as the book has everything and doesn’t give the proper answers.
You can also take look at the Mountain by Brianna Wiest which is all about Self-Sabotage, this book feels perfect as it focuses and deliver the same, and it doesn’t lose track.
The moral of the story is, you can skip The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks but if you’re a fan of an author then do read it, you will love it.
The Big Leap Summary
The upper Limit means the Comfort Zone, but the question is, what does that mean?
Rahul is doing a Job for about five years and suddenly one of his Friends comes to his home and said, why don’t you start a business or change job?
The problem with Rahul is, he doesn’t want to change his job because he has to go outside and find a job and again, has to make new friends and learn new things.
On the other hand, he also doesn’t want to start a business because he is afraid of losing and he thinks “what if I fail?, what if I lose all of my money? if I fail then what my friends will say about it?”
His story is, he doesn’t want to leave his Comfort Zone or as Gay Hendricks says, he doesn’t want to go above his upper limit because he is afraid.
Now, Gay Hendricks argues that when a person does something above the Comfort Zone, he/she will be free from everything.
The problem with this claim is, the author doesn’t provide any scientific data. So without data, it’s hard to follow and do something by going out of your Comfort Zone as the Comfort Zone might mean different for everyone.
Some might love their job hence they don’t want to find another job, some are happy with the salary they’re getting every month hence they don’t want to start a business and the stress that comes with it.
Fear is Not Real
You want to start a business but you’re afraid of whether your business will work or not?
You have already checked all the boxes, done all the research, and have the money and yet, there is fear in your head about whether the business will run or not.
So sit down and think for a second, whether the fear you have is real or not because the reality is, the Fear is not real, it’s just in your head.
The solution is, to believe in yourself and don’t think much about the outcome, but rather focus on the process.
You can also sit down, close your eyes, and just observe your thoughts and you will see that fear was in your head. This is called meditation, it does work, just relax for movement and see things as it is, and don’t question anything.
Fear never was Real.
Assume you have a Girlfriend and for some reason, you both started fighting, she said something about your work and you also started saying something about her family and thing got out of control.
The solution is, don’t focus on who is right or wrong and put your ego aside.
Focus on the problem, sit down, and ask what is going on in your life. That’s it, no one has to raise their voice, no shouting, just sit and talk about the problem you both are having.
The relationship won’t work if the partners start pointing fingers at each other.
So be that person who always goes after the problems.
Self-Sabotage aka Procrastination
Now, we don’t have to talk much about procrastination as we have a dedicated book written by Brian Tracy about it. Still, to put it simply, procrastination means delaying the tasks you suppose to do.
For example, you promised yourself that I will read a book every day at 5:00 PM but when the time comes, you will be like, not today, I will start reading tomorrow and days will go by but you will never read a single word.
As I have said, delaying the tasks you suppose to do…
I have said many times that there is no need to read every single self-help book, you just have to read one or two and you’re sorted.
Now, The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks is one of those books which you don’t have to read rather read The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck and The Courage To Be Disliked.
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