Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Summary (Plus PDF)

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is the best book if you’re single or in a relationship because it will help you to understand your partner better and teach you what men and women think when they’re in a relationship.

The good part is, the book is not only for couples, it’s written for even a single person who wants to understand the opposite gender.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Summary

Both men and women are psychically different as well as how they think and behave when facing any problem. That’s what John Gray tries to say in his book, he doesn’t give answers from the men’s preservatives. He balances out everything and gives you a simple answer that will make you think about how you behave.

When you read this book, you might not agree with everything but the book will surely make you think for movement about how you behave in front of your wife, girlfriend, mother, sister, or even your friends.

Whatever you will read here is from the perspective of John Gray and it’s not backed by any research but it’s backed by the author’s experience.

So let me share with you some core lessons from the book, so you can understand your partner better.

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Communicate with Your Partner

Let’s say you’re married to a woman called Maya and your name is Rohit.

One day Maya comes home from work and she looks frustrated.

And you asked her, what’s the problem? Why are you feeling low today?

She replies I don’t know, I’m doing everything perfectly and yet my boss is not happy with my work. I don’t know whether I like my job or not.

You replied I’ve been telling you for a long time that you should quit your job and find the job you love or just take a break from work.

She replies, what no, I love my job, it’s just that, things are not going well in the office. Also, I forgot to call my aunt as well, this office work is killing me…

You replied that’s why I’m telling you to take a break, and also, don’t worry about your aunt, she will understand what you’re going through.

She replies, what you’re talking about, you already know what she is going through and still, you don’t understand anything. I don’t why I share everything with you.

You see what happened here, an instant of giving a solution to your wife. If you have just listened to her for a few minutes then she might have felt better but no, you don’t want to understand her feelings.

What this means is that men love to solve problems no matter what happens. They feel solving the problem will fix everything whereas Women are different, sometimes they just want to spend time and talk things out.

They don’t want a solution, they just want to spend time.

The end story is, that when women face any sort of problem they want to spend time with their loved ones, they want to talk about it and sometimes, they don’t want the solution.

Whereas, when men face any sort of problem, they don’t feel like sharing, they will spend time alone till they find the solution to the problem they’re facing.

If in the end, men don’t find any solution then they will avoid the situation by watching movies, going outside, or even playing video games.

So remember this and apply this in your life because you need to understand your partner to live a happy life. Otherwise, things will go up and down here and there.

When Men and Women are Stressed

Whenever men are stressed or feel negative, they tend to get angry about little things, take almost everything on their ego, and try to avoid the problems they’re facing, if they don’t find any solution.

Whereas when women are stressed or feel negative, they go into depression.

The solution the author gives is, that men need to face their problems and if they don’t find any sort of solution then always ask for help whether from their wives or even friends.

If you don’t ask then you will never find the solutions.

The same goes for women as well, don’t keep everything inside yourself, communicate with your loved ones because that’s the only way to solve problems.

So be afraid to share your problems, share them and you will feel good.

Pay Attention

Most women complain that men don’t listen to them, they always want to give advice but they don’t feel like sitting and listening.

I’m a man and this is true at a certain level.

I have friends who love to talk for hours but they don’t want to listen, I don’t know why, I have pointed this out many times but still, he forgets this every single time.

So whether you men or women make a habit of listening.

For example, 

My favorite movie is 3 Idiots and if someone is talking about this movie then I won’t jump in the middle of the conversation and start talking about my favorite part of the movie.

I will let her finish and then I will add a few things about how she spoke.

This way, she will know that Rahul was listening and she will pay more attention whenever I say something.

This goes both ways, whether you’re a man or woman.

So from today, be a good listener.

Communication Styles

I have noticed this in real life as well, 

My wife knows every single detail about when we first met, what we ate at dinner, what we wore, and the things we talked about.

I know a few things but when she talks about everything, I feel like did we actually talk about these things.

This is what the author says too, 

He said Women are more detail-oriented whereas men are more direct communicators.

Men won’t remember everything but they will remember a few important things that they feel are worth it whereas women tend to remember every single detail.

Now, you don’t have to be like Women but if you want you can.

This is just an observation by the author.

Source of Happiness 

Women can get happy with even small gifts, they find happiness in small things whereas men can get happy with anything.

For example, if you give a smartphone to your wife and she won’t be happy but sometimes, if you just take her to dinner and she will be happy.

So you can’t understand what she wants whereas men can get happy with a new smartphone, video game, or anything else.

If you’re a man then don’t try to make her happy with big gifts.

Just give her flowers, take her to dinner, go on vacation, go see a movie or go for a long drive.

Do these small things every few days and she will be the happiest woman on earth.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Lessons

• Don’t be that man who always tries to solve problems, be that man who can sit for hours and listen.
• Men and Women are different human beings, so don’t try to push your ideas on her or him. 
• You will face problems and if you can’t find a solution then don’t be afraid to share them.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Quotes

“Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.”

″When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.”

“Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.”

“Because she is afraid of not being supported, she unknowingly pushes away the support she needs.”

“Not to be needed is a slow death for a man.”

“When she says ‘I feel like you are not even here,’ he says ‘What do you mean I’m not here? Of course, I am here. Don’t you see my body?’ ”

“When a woman’s wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love.”

“A man’s deepest fear is that he is not good enough or that he is incompetent. He compensates for this fear by focusing on increasing his power and competence. Success, achievement, and efficiency are foremost in his life … A man appears most uncaring when he is afraid.”

“Both men and women need to stop offering the method of caring they would prefer and start to learn the different ways their partners think, feel, and react.”

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Review

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a must-read book, this will give you a clear idea about the relationship but if you’re single then you will get to learn more about your future partner.

If you apply even 1% from this book then I feel, you will never fight with your partner ever. Your relationship will get stronger and you will come closer than ever before.

Who should read Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus?

Everyone who wants to make their relationship stronger, a man who fights with his wife or a woman who always criticizes her husband will get to learn about each of their behavior.

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