Book Summary: Happiness is not within materialistic things, it’s within ourselves. We just need to find the right path to find outflow. In the end, we all find the meaning of our life in the way, we always wanted.
Quotes from Flow Book:
“A joyful life is an individual creation that cannot be copied from a recipe.” – Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
“It is not the skills we actually have that determine how we feel but the ones we think we have.” -Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
“Few things are sadder than encountering a person who knows exactly what he should do, yet cannot muster enough energy to do it.” – Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
“Pain and pleasure occur in consciousness and exist only there” – Mihaly Csikszentmihaly
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This is by far the best book I have ever read about human behaviours, the author has explained everything in very simple language.
The Flow book will teach you everything from, how to find flow to how we find flow in the wrong places.
When I was reading Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience book, I had taken some of the notes which I will try to add here.
Lesson 1: Pleasure and Enjoyment are not the same
Pleasure and enjoyment may sound the same and we may feel the same but they are not the same.
Let’s say, you’re drinking alcohol or coffee, so here your mind will release dopamine and you will definitely feel good.
When we get instant happiness, it won’t last for a long time. That would be sex, watching movies, drinking alcohol, even coffee or buying a new smartphone.
This is called pleasure.
So you have to understand, in long run, the materialistic things won’t last long, they will fade away and that’s where you will feel sad.
Here what you have to do is, add some skill to your life or add good habits. It could be reading books, exercising, learning a new coding language, or starting a new business.
I know, by doing all these, you won’t get instant happiness but when you finish a book or get six-packs of abs, you will feel much better than coffee or that new smartphone.
In short, you have to understand, Pleasure and enjoyment. It could be a bit hard but when you make some changes, it will make your life better than before.
Lesson 2: Find Flow
Flow is where your life feels perfect. When you feel, this is what I wanted, that could be your flow.
For me, writing, when I start writing, I don’t think about my other problems, I just enjoy writing. You can also put it this way, I get lost in my own universe.
Keep in mind, don’t start something that is beyond your capabilities.
- Find something that makes you happy and adds value to your life
- Choose an activity that matches your skills.
- Don’t focus on money, focus on your work.
For example, you know how to play Chess, so you can’t just ask the best player in the world to play with you. First, you have to play with the same player as you are otherwise, you will feel sad.
In short, do something where you find your flow, things that are not too hard or not too easy, it sits between.
Set the goal according to your skills.
Lesson 3: Life Goals
When you set goals, make sure you don’t do it because of money or fame.
Now, if you do it because of money then after some time, if you don’t get enough money then you will feel disappointed.
So when you set a goal, don’t expect anything, just keep working and in the end, you will get everything.
You just have to trust yourself and work on your goals.
You can take my example, I love to read books and when I read books, I always take notes and that’s what I’m sharing with you all.
I’m not expecting to make money from Bookies Talk, the thing is, I love to write, so whenever I have time, I share something on this website.
Now, if I earn money from Bookies Talk then it’s great but my goal is not to make money, my goal is to share whatever I have learned on bookies talk.
So find something that makes you happy and work on it, in the end, you will get results.
Flow book Review
Flow is one of those books that will teach the true meaning of your life, it tells you, that money can’t be your end goal. Focus on yourself and you will get everything that you ever wanted including money or that new smartphone you wanted to buy.
A person can make himself happy or miserable, regardless of what is actually happening outside by just changing the mindset.
Why you should read Flow Book
- If you want to understand your behavior
- If you can’t able to find, what you want to do in your life then the book will guide in right direction.
- How one can complete the goals in less time
- Find the right flow for yourself
- You will be able to understand your mind better than before
- How you can focus on your life and not thinking about, what people are saying about you.
That was it, these are some of the points which noted when I was reading flow book and the same, you will find too.
In the end, I would say, if you want to archive a goal then focus on your goals and forget about people or rewards or anything that can slow down your process.
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