I have read many books on management and yet I didn’t find any book that comes close to The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, the book will give you a clear idea of how you can finish your work on time and how one can archive everything they want if they understand the value of time.
We all know that everyone on this earth has 24 hours, you just have to manage those 24 hours and do the thing that adds value to your life, and everything else can wait.
Here, let me share with you some of the lessons which I have learned from this book and a lot more.
“But until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise.” – Stephen R. Covey
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” – Stephen R. Covey
“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are or, as we are conditioned to see it.” – Stephen R. Covey,
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The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Summary
The author Stephen R. Covey has shared the 7 habits that will help you to live a simple yet comfortable life and will give you a clear idea about time and management.
Let’s talk about self-awareness…
Now try something else. Think about the mood you are now in. Can you identify it? How are you feeling? How would you describe your present mental state? Now think for a minute about how your mind is working. Is it quick and alert? Do you sense that you are torn between doing this mental exercise and evaluating the point to be made out of it?
Your ability to do what you just did is uniquely human. Animals do not possess this ability. We call it “self-awareness” or the ability to think about your very thought process.
This is the reason why man has dominion over all things in the world and why he can make significant advances from generation to generation. This is why we can evaluate and learn from others’ experiences as well as our own. This is also why we can make and break our habits.
We are not our feelings. We are not in our moods. We are not even our thoughts. The very fact that we can think about these things separates us from them and from the animal world.
Self-awareness enables us to stand apart and examine even the way we “see” ourselves-our the self-paradigm, the most fundamental paradigm of effectiveness. It affects not only our attitudes and behaviors but also how we see other people. It becomes our map of the basic nature of mankind.
In fact, until we take how we see ourselves (and how we see others) into account, we will be unable to understand how others see and feel about themselves and their world. Unaware, we will project our intentions on their behavior and call ourselves objective.
By the way, these are the 7 habits that the author has talked about in his book, so let’s talk about them…
- Be proactive
- Begin with the end in mind
- Put first things first
- Think win/win
- Seek first to understand, then to be understood
- Sharpen the saw
Stephen R. Covey has talked about the Proactive and Reactive,
Proactive are those people who don’t care about what people think, they will do whatever they believe in. They don’t care if the people are commenting on their clothes, looks, or the work they do…
In short, they’re happy with what they are…
On the other hand, Reactive people care much about what people say, let’s say, I’m a Reactive person then if the other person comments on my looks, my work, or even on my family then I will get upset, I will overthink about the comment the person made on my looks and much more.
In short, I will care about what people say about life…
Do let me know what kind of person you’re, Reactive or Proactive?
Learn To Say No
I think you already know what I’m about to talk about,
Sometimes, it’s better to say NO to something rather than say yes to everything.
Let’s, someone from your family ask you that, it will mean a lot to me if you can deliver this item to my friend’s home, now, at the same time, you’re working on your office project or doing something else which is very important then delivery item.
In this case, you have two options,
If you say, YES then your family member will get happy.
Now if you say, NO then you will make your family member upset and he or she will keep that NO in their mind.
By the way, I was YES guys about a year ago but now, I can say NO, if I’m working on something which is important, if I’m not doing anything then I will say YES.
In short, learn to say no, don’t think about what he or she will think.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood
SUPPOSE YOU’VE BEEN HAVING TROUBLE WITH YOUR EYES and you decide to go to an optometrist for help. After briefly listening to your complaint, he takes off his glasses and hands them to you.
“Put these on,” he says. “I’ve worn this pair of glasses for ten years now and they’ve really helped me. I have an extra pair at home; you can wear these.”
So you put them on, but it only makes the problem worse.
“This is terrible!” you exclaim. “I can’t see a thing!”
“Well, what’s wrong?” he asks. “They work great for me. Try harder.”
“I am trying,” you insist. “Everything is a blur.” “Well, what’s the matter with you? Think positively.”
“Okay. I positively can’t see a thing.”
“Boy, are you ungrateful!” he chides. “And after all, I’ve done to help you!”
What are the chances you’d go back to that optometrist the next time you needed help? Not very good, I would imagine. You don’t have much confidence in someone who doesn’t diagnose before he or she prescribes.
But how often do we diagnose before we prescribe in communication?
“Come on, honey, tell me how you feel. I know it’s hard, but I’ll try to understand.”
“Oh, I don’t know, Mom. You’d think it was stupid.”
“Of course, I wouldn’t! You can tell me. Honey, no one cares for you as much as I do. I’m only interested in your welfare. What’s making you so unhappy?”
“Oh, I don’t know.”
“Come on, honey. What is it?”
“Well, to tell you the truth, I just don’t like school anymore.”
“What?” you respond incredulously. “What do you mean you don’t like school? And after all the sacrifices we’ve made for your education! Education is the foundation of your future. If you’d apply yourself as your older sister does, you’d do better, and then you’d like school.
Time and time again, we’ve told you to settle down. You’ve got the ability, but you just don’t apply yourself. Try harder. Get a positive attitude about it.”
Pause. “Now go ahead. Tell me how you feel.”
We have such a tendency to rush in, to fix things up with good advice. But we often fail to take the time to diagnose, to really, deeply understand the problem first.
If I were to summarize in one sentence the single most important principle I have learned in the field of interpersonal relations, it would be this: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. This principle is the key to effective interpersonal communication.
I’m sharing with you, the thing I have learned…
Important task: These could be those task which doesn’t need your attention but they are important, again, you don’t have to do them right away.
For example, you have to go to the supermarket because you have a list of items which you have to buy for your home, this is important because you need those items but it’s not very important, so you can do it on letter day.
Urgent Task: These are those tasks that require your attention right away.
For example, You need to finish the project which your boss has given, you have a meeting which is very important for your business, or something else that is needed to do right away.
Nor Urgent or Important Task: These are those tasks that are not important or urgent but you like doing them.
For example, you want to watch movies, and TV shows, go to parties, spend time with your friends, use social media, and many more. You don’t have to do all these things but you like doing them because it makes you happy.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Review
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People will make you think about how you spend your time, time is a key part of every human being and if they can understand value then people can do whatever they want and this is what Stephen R. Covey has talked about in his book.
It’s an absolute classic and everyone should read it to understand how valuable time is.
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